Tag Archives: Parenting

MARCY AXNESS: The Trouble with Time-Out

So there you are one afternoon, at the end of your rope with an out-of-control three-year-old. You know you won’t spank him, and you have become mindful of avoiding shame-based measures, so what’s left? Is “Time Out” the answer? At risk of bringing on the wrath of parents everywhere, my answer is no. Time-outs were conceived as a more humane ... Read More »

MARCY AXNESS: Are You REALLY Independent…In Your Birth Choice?

As long as our country continues to show up so poorly in world rankings on maternal health, I continue to run this article every year on America’s birthday, hoping to illuminate issues around our perceived birth choices. Am I naive in thinking that individual independence around these issues can help pave the way to us being a safer nation for ... Read More »

MARCY AXNESS: The Joys of Adult Children

I mean that title as a double-entendre, because this week is steeped in both meanings: I spent a long Father’s Day weekend in San Francisco being an adult child — musing nostalgically around the city and Marin, the landscape of my early childhood — and am now spending a couple of days responding to my grown daughter’s call for Mama time. Childhood ... Read More »

We Don’t Need No Thought Control

drawing of a robot

As a child, by the end of a typical school day my mind was numb and exhausted from endless busy work. When my parents asked excitedly, “How was your day?” and “What did you learn?” my answers were, “fine” and “stuff.” And I wasn’t the only kid who was bored by the standardized, factory-like education in which we played the ... Read More »

Not a pretty picture: high-stakes testing and school discipline in China

chinese education system

There’s a revolution happening in China. It’s a quiet one, but full of the intensity of parents who are upset with their schools, teachers longing to teach what students need, and children rebelling at the lockstep march towards high scores on the gaokao exam, a two- day government-administered standardized test that has been called “an SAT on steroids.” On a trip to Shanghai last fall, I spoke with all ... Read More »

MARCY AXNESS: My Three Mothers—An Appreciation

I had three mothers and I needed them all. I’m dedicating this Mother’s Day reflection to all you mamas out there who fill so many roles and wear so many hats in meeting your children’s needs — and you’re  just one mother! You are masters of the bob-and-weave, performing complex multi-task maneuvering to cover the many bases required of moms. My three ... Read More »

MARCY AXNESS: Got Trust? The Antidote for Insecurity & Stress

One fundamental intention in parenting for peace is to foster trust and hope within your child from the very beginning. When we nurture trust in our children’s souls, it can unfold into an unending arc of confidence — in themselves, in you, in their fellow humans, in Life. By trust I mean a calm reliance upon things that you cannot ... Read More »

MARCY AXNESS: Mining Joy from the Muck of Daily Mothering

If you’ve followed me much, maybe you’ve heard me say this already: motherhood brought me to my knees. Motherhood broke me open, and then brought me… sometimes kicking and screaming (literally)… through the muck of daily mothering to a fullness of selfhood I couldn’t have even begun to imagine at the beginning of the bumpy journey. I was a walking list ... Read More »

BETH LAMBERT: A Unique Approach to Healing

The Canary Kids Project Grassroots Initiative Tackles New Childhood Epidemics One of the greatest paradoxes of our times is that the most affluent, resourced and medically advanced societies in the world also have the highest rates of chronic childhood illness. Obesity and diabetes, autism and neurodevelopmental delays, and digestive and allergic diseases were rare just a generation ago. Today those ... Read More »

Rub Some Dirt in It

Where the Wild Things Are Picture

We are all familiar with classics such as Where the Wild Things Are and Home Alone, two tales of children holding their own and embracing any obstacles in their path. While audiences find the main characters’ bold behavior amusing, such challenging situations are not only necessary for children’s development, but are getting harder and harder to come by. It does a kid a ... Read More »